So I know I talk about my high school friends a lot on here, but no matter where I go life continues to prove that they are the best people I probably am ever going to meet. When I’m with them there’s never a moment I regret whether it’s the times we spend watching enough Property Brothers to realize that literally every house they renovate is the same or the not so glamorous moments when one of them has too much to drink. I think it’s so important to surround yourself with people who make you feel your happiest and make you want to be a better person and not with people who bring you down. I know you end up friends with some people out of necessity or circumstance, but if they aren’t bettering your life, you need to really analyze if they should be in your life. After coming back from abroad I decided to stop spending time with those I didn’t enjoy spending time with and I ended up enjoying my semester a lot more. Sometimes it seems like we need to have a lot of friends to be happy, but I’m a big proponent that when it comes to friends the rule quality over quantity has never been truer.
If you are fortunate enough to find a good group of friends make sure to hold onto them tight and never let them go (this is of course figuratively and I highly recommend you don’t try to plot how to keep them from going back to school because they will not appreciate it). I was fortunate enough to meet the best group of girls ever in high school and two years after we have graduated we are still as close as ever. They are the type of friends that no matter how many miles separate us, I can call and they will help me out no questions asked. We aren’t perfect friends by any means, and probably fight about if we should take a vacation in December or May more than any people who are going on vacation together should, but that’s what makes we have so amazing. We aren’t afraid to challenge each other and we are all willing to stand for what we believe in, especially when it is believing in each other. Throughout the past two years we have all grown as people a lot and as a result we have also changed, but even with these changes we still come together every time we’re home like nothing has changed between us. Those are the kinds of friends that I think everyone needs to have and if you haven’t found them yet, I’m 100% sure they are out there somewhere waiting to be found.
I was(and still am) incredibly close with a group of 10 girls in high school. The idea of leaving them this past summer to go to college was heart wrenching and I didn’t think I could survive 4 months without them. Luckily I made it out on the other side of my first semester alive and still friends with all of them. I thought it would be a lot more difficult than it was to stay in touch considering there were thousands of miles between me and them, but it wasn’t. We came up with a few ideas of how to keep in touch and found them to work really well for us so I thought I would share them with you guys.
1. Don’t overestimate the handwritten note – Twitter, Facebook, Texting, etc. are all great, but there’s something special about sending and receiving letters. I send letters back and forth with a few of my friends and no matter when I get my letters they always manage to make my day. I feel like the time it takes to write a letter compared to text makes it that more personal and special and I love it.
2. Set a day and time to video chat and stick to it – My friends and I personally use Google hangout over skype because all you need is a google account and you can quickly do a group video chat. We chose to do it every Sunday at 8:30 pm central time. We have people in three different time zones so this time works the best for us because no one will be in classes and everyone will have had time to eat dinner. Everyone isn’t able to do it every week, but every week there is always at least a few. It’s nice to be able to catch everyone up on the big events that week that happened and vent together about the essays you don’t want to write.
3. Facebook Group – We have a private facebook group that we originally used over the summer to plan things, but now we use it as a way to keep in touch. We use it to plan get togethers for when we are home on breaks, we post things that can’t wait till the google hangout to share(like new boyfriends, and even used it to motivate each other during finals week by posting memes (It’s amazing how inspiring Ryan Gosling can be lol).
4. The Traveling Notebook – We don’t personally do this, but I love this idea. It was inspired by Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants in case you couldn’t tell. If you use a notebook set up how long you will each have the notebook and then when you have the notebook you treat it like a journal. You could set up journaling prompts that everyone will do or just have everyone write whatever they want. Then when your time is up you send the notebook to the next person and then they get to read what everyone else wrote and then write their own.
5. Send each other books – Another idea that we haven’t done yet, but I’m planning on doing this semester. My idea for this one is to buy and read a book, and as I go use post it notes to make short comments. They might be about my thoughts about the chapter or highlight a quote I really liked. Then once I have finished the book I will send it to one of my friends as a fun present with some personal touches.