I am a huge believer that one of the most important things you need to do in life to be successful is define who you are. While I think that definition is always changing, I think you need to figure out a foundation of who you are. That foundation consists of your values and priorities and what makes up the essence of who you are. I don’t think it’s something you should actively seek out to do though. I think by having experiences in your life and aiming to be your authentic self and do things that make you happy you find out your definition along the way. Something I have begun to think about recently though is the idea of how you shouldn’t let other people define you. You are the one (and only one) who can and should define you. Our friends, family, significant others, and everyone else under the sun always seem to think it’s a good idea to tell us who we should be. Many times they don’t mean to do this in a hurtful way, but when we take in all of those opinions we become who others want us to be instead of who we truly are.
Along with that, I have begun to actively stop trying to define other people especially when it comes to defining their emotions. When someone gets offended or upset by something you do, many times our first instinct is to try to justify what we did and explain to them why they really shouldn’t be offended by what you said. Here’s the thing though, people have a right to be offended or upset or angry or any other emotion, and it is not your place to tell them whether or not that is a valid emotion because all emotions are valid.